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Thursday, May 24, 2007
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From the time you are young there is always this push to grow up and get married. Even when you’re in high school and you have a ‘high school sweetheart’ there’s all this “are you guys serious?” and that “will you end up together?”
Fortunately for me I knew the answers to this right off the bat with my first relationship…No and No. There’s always your first long term relationship which is your learning experience…well I take that back ALL relationships are learning experiences…trust me. You learn the good and bad…which will be another blog I have in the works…stay tuned for that one. Also, let me enter a side note here that I don't claim to be a relationship expert...just the opposite actually..ok GO!
Anyways, a high school relationship in this day and time is what I consider to be ‘expiration dating’ anyway. There’s college and you more than likely move away from each other, there’s the big-nosed skanks who sleep with your boyfriend, there’s the “I need to be myself for a while” and the “I think we should go on a break” and all that jazz. Between myself and my close band of 5 or so girls, we have seen each other through all the high school stuff.
Then there’s the more mature boyfriend….when I say mature I use the term loosely. Older is perhaps what I meant =) I’m just kidding, there is nothing wrong with dating older guys…I do it all the time. But dating someone so much older when you don’t get along? Well that’s quite another story. He could be a perfect guy…just not perfect for you, which is what I ran into. Those are always hard because some things can click so well, but the important things…those just didn’t click. And I believe God put a few people on this earth you are compatible with…there’s not just that one person…and that goes both ways…he also didn’t mean for you to date just anyone either. Someone who isn’t right for you is perfect for someone else….and that’s just how it goes. The only thing wrong with a much older guy is that their life is in a completely different stage…at this point I mean. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is for me…just not now…and never to the wrong person. I think that may be the biggest mistake people can make.
Which brings me to my last point…mistakes. Some relationships can be just that. A mistake…those are the ones you tried very hard not to label as a relationship. The ones that thought they knew you so well…and like I’ve said before, if they did…they would have known how truly unhappy and trapped you felt. The ones that you’re not quite sure why or how they happened…but you know you don’t want anything like that again…and at least if you want to see the silver lining you can throw in that “L” word we’ve been discussing…Learning. At least you damn well learned something.
Then you have the opposite of mistakes, which is where I find myself in this point of my life.
I have found myself with the person who finishes my sentences…steals the words right out of my mouth as I go to say them. Someone who never fights with me…which for me is no easy task. Anyone who knows me also knows I’m not easy to get along with…I’m a stubborn ass and also quite cruel at times. So for me to find someone that I haven’t so much as argued with or even really been pissed off at in almost 6 months is…amazing. I’ve found someone to quote movies with me, Eat sushi with me, surprise me with presents…which embarrasses me but whatever. So when people ever ask “are you guys serious?” and “will you end up together?” I can say with confidence…yes and yes.
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